It’s happening already, a good ten days before Thanksgiving: People are putting up their Christmas trees. When I see the posts online, I comment, “So soon?” or “Already?” or “Thanksgiving? Advent?” I guess I’m just getting curmudgeonly in my new status as a 50 year old.
I’ve not posted much on Facebook or Twitter since early December. And frankly, I haven’t missed it much.
Yes—to answer the inevitable question—I haven’t seen some updates from family and friends. I don’t know the latest on the lives of those I’m not in regular contact with otherwise—but most of those were food posts or pictures from vacations or their thoughts on the political climate (I’ve definitely not missed these).
While I travelled in Vancouver, I kept running into concerns about the human impact on the environment. Our trip was timed with the President’s announcement that the US would pull out of the Paris Agreement on Climate Change.
[featured-image single_newwindow=”false”]One of Emily Carr’s paintings at the Vancouver Art Gallery. Phil LaBelle, 2017.[/featured-image]
I do not think that this was an accident. The Holy Spirit has a funny way of opening our eyes to things we have wanted to avert them from.
I decided on the way to the Albuquerque airport to stop and do my laundry so I wouldn’t have to do it in Vancouver. I left Christ in the Desert Monastery a couple of hours before I had initially planned and stopped in Santa Fe. When I could access the internet, I looked up local laundromats and stopped at the closest one—well rated on Yelp, by the way. (I didn’t know such things were rated.)
I like going to the laundromat, frankly. I like getting all the week’s laundry done in a short time during the summer when I hit the one nearby our cottage on the Cape early in the morning before the crowds descend. This time I went on Memorial Day at about 10am. Still early, but the machines were chugging and tumbling.
During my sermon on Sunday I mentioned I’d put together online and app resources for praying. Here’s the list of things I’ve found (and some I’ve personally used) to make the most of your time and technology.
Pray As You Go — A daily audio prayer with scripture site. Recommended for those beginning with prayer.
Common Prayer App— Put out by the New Monastic movement, a wonderful, rich and easy to use resource
Daily Office App — An app to purchase, but finally a great resource for the BCP Daily Office.
Meditation Time App— Different sounds and calming images to help you not worry about the time when you pray or spend time in silence meditating on scripture or God.
Prune— A meditative game that allows you to “Cultivate what matters. Cut away the rest.”
A Lenten Sermon based on Isaiah 58:1-12.
The Almighty One in the book of the Prophet Isaiah asks: “Is such the fast that I choose, a day to humble oneself? Is it to bow down the head like a bulrush, and to lie in sackcloth and ashes? Will you call this a fast, a day acceptable to the Lord?” These are hard words on a day when we gather together to have ashes placed on our foreheads in an act of our own humility. We gather midweek at church to begin a holy Lent, with maybe some hope of getting a little extra credit, and already God is begging the question, “Why are you here?”
The Lord continues: “Is not this the fast that I choose: to loose the bonds of injustice, to undo the thongs of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and to break every yoke? Is it not to share your bread with the hungry, and bring the homeless poor into your house; when you see the naked, to cover them, and not to hide yourself from your own kin?” What God says to us, the ones assembled on this holy day, is that we shouldn’t worry about extra credit or appearing to be holier than the ones not here with us. That if we truly want to understand the desires of God, we should fast from those things in us that cast down the lowly and harm the poor. We should look more closely at our own lives and the sin that makes us turn a blind eye to the ones in need. We should question those in power who create systems of injustice that perpetuate the status of the poor and the ones living in poverty.
And in one fell swoop the Word of the Lord shifts Ash Wednesday from being about us to being about others. Humility isn’t really humility if we do things we hope will show others how humble we are. “Beware of practicing your piety before other in order to be seen by them; for then you have no reward from your Father in heaven.”
According to measures put together by the USDA some 767,000 people in Massachusetts faced what is known as “food insecurity” during 2013, including more than 87,000 right here in Worcester County. “Food insecurity refers to a lack of access, at times, to enough food for an active, healthy life for all household members and limited or uncertain availability of nutritionally adequate foods. Food insecure households are not necessarily food insecure all the time. Food insecurity may reflect a household’s need to make trade-offs between important basic needs, such as housing or medical bills, and purchasing nutritionally adequate foods.” Nationwide there are more than 48 million people living in food insecure households, with 15.3 million of those being children.
We have a collection of prayers that we use at meal times in our house that we purchased from Forward Movement. The prayers can be propped up so they can be said by all. One of my favorites is this: “Lord, feed the hungry. And for those of us who have plenty, may we hunger for you. Amen.” I love its brevity and clarity to be sure, but I’m also taken by its clarion call to do something more. I know that I am the Lord’s hands and feet, and that the answer to my prayer—the feeding of the hungry—can happen through me if I truly hunger for God. It can happen if I recognize the plenty I already have. If I choose the right kind of fast.
Four years ago some of us read together Chris Seay’s book A Place at the Table: 40 Days of Solidarity with the Poor. It’s a daily devotion for Lent that reflects on how for many of us our lives are shaped by food, what we’re in the mood for, whether we need to cut back on carbs, or how we turn to food for comfort. Most of the poor in our world do not have this luxury. Chris invites us to make food choices reflecting the poor during the 40 days of Lent. Perhaps eating food similar to the family of a child we sponsor through a relief organization, or making do on the amount families get through SNAP and other programs. He encourages his readers both fast and, one day a week, to feast with joy in order to recognize the abundance of God’s kingdom, and allowing for the rhythm of Lent with Sundays always marked as a feast day as we remember Jesus’ resurrection.
With all this in mind, I’ve personally decided to forgo lunch and any snacks from breakfast until dinner during Lent, and intentionally making those meals generally simpler—oatmeal and fruit in the morning, and soups and bread in the evening. I’m doing this to remember the food insecure among us—the parents who choose not to eat so they can give more of the little food they have to their children—and to live into that prayer that I may hunger for God. This sort of thing is not easy for me—many of you know I love to cook and eat food in general—and I’m not telling you this to make myself look good or somehow holier because I don’t think that at all really. I just want to hunger for God; to take on the fast that God desires. To share bread and shelter and clothes with those who might need it. To give away the money I won’t be spending on lunches to an organization feeding the ones truly in need. To not only pray for change to happen but to become more involved and work toward that change myself, all the while relying on God for sustenance.
And my prayer for you is that whatever you may be feeling called to give up or take on this Lent, that you do it for no other reason than wanting to draw closer to God. That your devotion or fasting or alms-giving would show your desire to hunger after God and to walk more closely with Jesus in the days ahead. When we do these things, Isaiah tells us, “Then the Lord will guide you continually, and satisfy your needs in the parched places, and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water whose waters never fail.” May it be so for each of us these 40 days. May we have all our needs satisfied by the Almighty. Amen.
If I’m honest, I’ll admit that I like having things figured out on my own rather than relying on others to teach me. It’s a control issue, of course. Going it alone means I don’t have to depend on someone else. But I’ve also learned that having a guide really makes things so much better. Advent is a time to release my grip on circumstances in my life and find ways to let God in to guide me.
A sermon based on Psalm 25.
Taking a cue from REI, I opted outside this Thanksgiving weekend. As you may know, I’m not big into the retail crush in the run-up to Christmas. We’ve only just lit the first of our Advent candles, even though the Christmas decorations have been out in most stores since well before Halloween, and I think Christmas is about more than consumerism. Hiking has become a passion for me, so Melissa and the kids and I headed up to Mt. Watatic near the New Hampshire border for a classic New England hike on Friday, and then yesterday I joined a group from the Appalachian Mountain Club to hike Pack Monadnock in Southern New Hampshire.
I’ve entered middle age. I wake up around 5:30 most days regardless of what time I went to bed. I’m usually refreshed—unless the Red Sox had a late game that I half watched since I often doze off when they run past 9. The kids begin waking up with the sun most days, so I use the time in the morning as intentionally as I can.
I am finding these days that after reading Morning Prayer I want to explore the day to come and map out what has the potential to bring me life on this day. I regularly do the Examen (an Ignation spiritual practice where you reflect on the day asking what fed your soul today and what took life away from you. Want to learn more? Get the book Sleeping with Bread). But it has been only recently that I’ve wondered if I could mold my day to tilt to the life-giving side of the equation.
In my work I know administrative things drain me while time one-on-one with parishioners feeds me. I love taking time to craft words into sentences that have the potential to change someone’s life. Reading a blog that makes me think invites me to try on new ideas. In my personal life I enjoy time with my kids and my wife, and especially having meals together. Reading together at night often revives my soul. Tucking my children into bed always brings me joy as it does them. Laundry is always a drain, although I like it when it’s done (who doesn’t?).
I’m laying it out in its most basic form because many events happen in a day that we cannot plan—an interaction with a coworker or something I read that moves me or an unexpected pastoral situation like an illness or a death in a family. Frankly, I love that about my job too, the enormous variety of things that come up in the work of a priest, otherwise I’d be bored out of my skull.
Or you may be in a different phase of life. Maybe you’re retired or your vocation is to stay at home. Maybe you’re a student. Whatever your situation, there is that which feeds you and that which doesn’t.
It comes down to this: What if I knew I had many things in store for today that brought me life? Wouldn’t that make me more eager to engage the day with gusto? What if I could tackle anything I thought might drain me as early as possible so it didn’t drag me down all day? What if I lived more intentionally?
Here’s my plan:
- Take 5 minutes to think about the day ahead, about the tasks that need to be done. It helps me to be more intentional if I write it down.
- Determine which of those things would bring you joy or life or energy. Imagine which will drain you. But don’t be so certain! Sometimes I think something will be hard when it’s really great.
- Map out the day as best you can. Obviously meetings are usually fixed but other things can maybe be more flexible.
- Start with something you love, then do most of the things that might drain you. The weight of dread is horrible to bear an entire day and will color everything else.
- Make sure to do at least one thing that feeds you each day. It seems obvious, but there have been times when I’ve reached the end of the day and realized I missed opportunities to take delight in my day. Too many days in a row of slogging through can make you miserable.
As I journey further into my life, I’m recognizing more and more that intentionality is key. It’s easy to drift, to get sucked up into social media or some drama in my life, and then wonder where the day went. But if I take a few minutes and reflect on all the good things that can come from this day and plan to to them, then I give myself the possibility of ending my day with the Examen and with gratitude.
“A good story involves a character who wants something and overcomes conflict to get it.” – Donald Miller
I attended Don Miller’s Storyline Conference this spring. I read Don’s life-changing book A Million Miles in a Thousand Years while recuperating from the surgical repair of my tibial plateau fracture, and Storyline follows a natural progression from the book. In short, Don invites participants to intentionally live a better story. But if you’re going to live a good story, then you need to overcome conflict. Most of us eschew conflict like the plague. (The plague still exists by the way. When I lived in Colorado, an open space area near us—home to a prairie dog colony—bore signs warning that the cute little dogs had contracted the Bubonic Plague. You could enter at your own risk. It certainly made you think twice about walking there. I high-tailed it back to my car.) So if conflict lies in the way of us living a better story, surely we shouldn’t plop back down on the couch and give up. But most of us do. We’d rather grab a bag of Doritos and watch reality TV on the Food Network than engage in overcoming conflict. (Okay, I’d rather do that. Insert your own snack food and TV addictions). I suspect we do this for a few of reasons:
- We think conflict will go away by itself and when it does we’ll get the story we want. Why we fall for this magical thinking stumps me, but we do. Conflicts standing in the way of a better life—like a deeper relationship with your spouse, tackling a fitness program, getting out of debt, planning the trip you’ve always dreamed about, starting your own business — don’t disappear.
- We push off starting till tomorrow. Maybe we’ve heard Annie sing “Tomorrow” too many times, and never realize that if tomorrow is going to be a brand new day, we really have to start over. If we live on auto-pilot, tomorrow will be a repeat of today. And so will tomorrow’s tomorrow. And before you know it, Christmas comes again.
- We don’t know where to start. The curse of our society lies in believing that everything happens quickly and easily. But accomplishing goals takes work, a number of small steps put together. Rather than throwing in the towel before we begin, doing one small step today makes tomorrow’s small step a little easier. You have to live intentionally and begin plugging away. What is one thing you can do today to move you in the direction of your goal?
I’m trying to put this in practice myself. I love to write, but have had trouble making the time. I’ve started finding time in the early mornings which means rolling out of bed a bit earlier than normal. I also signed up for a 7 mile road race in August. It won’t run itself. I’ve been hitting the roads and the gym to get my body in shape. It’s not “fun” but I know I’ll love the feeling when I cross that finish line. The story I want to live involves being a writer and a middle-age man who’s in shape. What about you? What are some of the conflicts you’d like to overcome so you can live a better story? How are you living intentionally? I’d love to read your comments. _________________________
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I’ve heard quite a few comments about my sermon and relational giving. I thought I’d post some ideas about relational gifts. I also encourage you to add some too in the comments section below!
Many of these suggestions come from RethinkingChristmas.com
Gift of Time
- Popcorn, specialty soda and classic DVD for a movie night with a friend
- Host a sporting event (football game, March Madness) and make homemade pizza
- Wrap 2 copies of a great book (even used!) and read it with a friend
- Bring hot cocoa and cookies and plan an evening walk to see holiday lights
- Babysitting for a worn out mom you know
- Car clean up
- Yard work for an elderly/ill person
- Road trip for an adventure with your child
- Help with a house project for someone (like a shed, or taking down a tree)
- Coffee with conversation
- A day in the city together
- Weekend away with your spouse
- A new bat and a trip to the batting cages
- A day trip with cameras for your photographer friend
- A DVD of your life for relatives who live away from you
- Make a “newspaper” at home with your kids and have them illustrate it.
- Make gifts to share — food, cookies, homemade frames, etc.
Support Charities in Someone’s Honor (especially about causes they care about)
- Living Water International — Clean water for all
- World Vision — Children to sponsor and one time gifts for things from soccer balls to health vaccines and opportunities for education
- Heifer International — give the gift of an animal, the first offspring of which will also be gifted
- Episcopal Relief and Development — aid organization for crisis far and near